Failure – there’s been a lot written on this topic but it’s been rattling around in my head for the last few days, so I thought I would write it down. One of the best ways that I process is to write so I’m hoping this post will help make sense of these thoughts to me, – and to you.
I missed my self-imposed deadline of at least one post a week on the blog – last week. Part of the reason for that was that a project that I was making for the blog didn’t pan out the way I wanted it too. It was a autumnal garland which I started to make with some wire leaves. I loved the leaves but they didn’t work on the garland, they were too small didn’t show up enough.
Then I made some leaves and woodland animals with some FIMO for the garland and they were ok, but the fox fell forward on the string as I had made the holes in the wrong place. The acorns didn’t work. I really had no place to put this garland. I put it on the dresser – didn’t work. I taped it to the wall – the pesky fox took a dive and I didn’t want to put nails in the wall in the space where it could hang.
So this garland is my route to talking about failure. How do you deal with it? Is my garland a failure? The word failure carries with it so many connotations. Thinking like this can cripple me and I start to think along these negative lines; ‘I can’t get anything right’, ‘nothing works’, ‘I’m rubbish at this’, ‘why bother anyway’. Sometimes I’m in a good place and can put it in focus of; ‘it’s all a learning experience’, ‘it’s not a failure if I’ve learnt something’, ‘so it didn’t work – how can I make it work?’
I don’t like to think of things in terms of stark, polar points of failure and success, because really – what do they mean? Nothing is ever truly irredeemable and nothing is ever truly perfect. Thinking along these lines of perfectionism or defeatism can cripple us from moving forward.
I often ponder that some may think about me or this blog; ‘why start a blog?’, ‘why has she decided to show DIY decor on the internet?’ And I’m not an expert, there will always be someone doing it better, someone with more followers, more page views. What have I got to add? But the great thing about this online world, is that we all have something to say, everyone’s experience is unique and valid and stories are what connect us to each other. I love to read other blogs and find so much encouragement in hearing of other’s journeys and thoughts.
So my garlands didn’t work out and I’m not going to write a tutorial on how to make these *wonderful* garlands. Because, as it turns out, I do like to put stuff on here that I like and think is pretty good. But making them wasn’t wasted time and I got to write this post instead. I also got to wonder why they didn’t work, I think part of the reason was because I made them for the blog, not for me. Often something has to be authentic to work. I wasn’t feeling it (oh how luvvy!), I didn’t love it or need it. And the great thing with making things is that sometimes the purpose is served solely in the process, I got to be creative with my mind and my hands. Sometimes that is enough, the result is secondary. We write off doing things, because we think; ‘the result will be rubbish’ or ‘we are not capable’ or ‘someone else can do it better’, but we miss the point. Sometimes the value is in the step forward. To dare to try. Sometimes it takes courage, even in the small things, but it is so worth it.
So this week, I am going to press through and I will continue to be creative, I will rest because the worst work comes when I’m tired. I am going to write and post on the blog. It may be that my focus may be more creativity than tutorials this week but there’s a season for everything. What I make may be good, I may love it or it may just be the outlet that my soul needs and the result may be average, but it won’t matter. The result has no bearing on my worth, no full representation of my ability, also my worth is not in my ability. I will be brave even in that tentative, small step forward, because I will not restrict myself from creating.
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